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You chose to spend that amount on him. He chose gifts he thought you’d like. Don’t ask questions you don’t want answers for. He shouldn’t have even told you about the ring though.
How would yall handle it?
I'm gonna start off by saying that I love my bf dearly and I really do appreciate my Christmas presents that he hand picked for me, but I dont think I'm overreacting when I also felt a bit disappointed.
Months ago my bf and I were talking ab a price limit for our Christmas presents this year. He automatically popped out 120$. It's our first Christmas together and I do admit I went a tad bit overboard. I got him a gaming headset (130$), a customized controller (90$) and a game (30$)... by NO means was I expecting him to spend nearly that much on me.
He told me he had my gift and then one day he told me that he returned it because he found something else so I asked him what he returned and he told me it was a promise ring WHICH was totally fine. If he changed his mind ab it then I'm glad he didnt give me it yet ya know?
Anyways, I open my present and it's the absolute sweetest hand written love note, a pair of fuzzy socks (that he later told me was actually two pair but he took the plain black pair for himself bc they looked comfy😕), and a necklace..
^^ this is the necklace he bought me.. when I asked him where he purchased it at he told me Kohl's and that it was 120$.
I couldn't find it anywhere on the kohl's website and now that he's left my family is making comments ab it looking cheap and that he did me wrong
I'm so sad and dont know why he lied or why he set that price if he didnt want to spend that much AND he took my other pair of socks that went with this pair😔
What would yall do?😔
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I think you’re right to be disappointed. No, it isn’t about the money! But that’s also why we set price ranges, so we give equally and don’t end up disappointed. He told you $120, by his choosing, and decided to lie to you. If something came up or he realized that was too much, he should have talked to you. Everyone seems to disagree with women on things like this but when the story is reversed they come at the women for her behavior. You are completely right to be disappointed.
J
These are like $40 at the store or from the luna norte website
Je
Do keep in mind your site is posh mark and if it’s just the price that upsets you and not the thoughtfulness, remember Christmas gets crazy and he very well could have spent 120 and just forgot the place he bought it
I would have no issue with the gifts themselves or even that he took one of the pairs of socks. Just because he threw out a limit of $120 doesn't mean he has to spend that much and if he bought it because he thought that was what you'd like, then that's what matters. I personally don't like the thought of comparing how much you paid for him as opposed to how much he paid for you and is one of the biggest things I hate about Christmas....THAT BEING SAID, I went on the jewelry's actual website, did some digging of my own and there is no way he paid $120 at Kohl's for that. Rose quartz is not an expensive stone at all and comparable sets cost $45 at most on the actual website. If the actual website is charging $45 for a comparable product, Kohl's is not going to charge 3x that. At most, he probably spent $20-$30 on the necklace. My issue is not with the gifts themselves or how much he spent, but that he's lying about how much he spent and that's a bigger issue imo.
Je
Love this response!!
it's still a thoughtful gift and a cute necklace... what arr you upset about?
Le
clearly these two were not on the same page but honestly idc who is saying it looks cheap she shouldn't give in to her family and start questioning it. we don't know if it was all he could afford maybe he thought she wouldn't go over that limit? regardless it's dumb of US to defend whoever this is bc again she needs to take it up w his ass
Lo
She looked it up because her family were commenting about how cheap the necklace looked. Is what I got from what she wrote not that she deliberately went online to look. To be honest, the necklace does look very cheap. And to admit he’s taken one of the socks because they looked comfy. Wow he’s not winning bf of the year is he?
Le
ok so then she needs to take that shit up w him for lying, bc honestly who really looks up to see how much something costs? that makes her sound ungrateful
I don’t know wtf everyone is on about but when you set a limit of $120 it means you buy a gift worth that much or at least something very close to the limit. He’s got you something worth 1/6th of what was agreed. My husband and I had set a limit of £100 and that’s exactly what we got. Might be missing a few quid each but if someone pulled the shit your bf did, then I’ll be having words. It’s not even about the price anymore, it’s the fact that he clearly knows what he’s done was wrong hence why he lied about where it came from to make you think it was expensive. The lying alone for me, is a red flag. He sounds like a cheap arsehole and if this isn’t the only shitty things he’s pulled in the past, then I’d honestly consider kicking him to the curb.
I think it’s selfish for him to take a pair of your socks for his self. And by him being “cheap” after you guys setting an amount I’d be upset too. He should’ve never set the amount if he couldn’t afford it BUT I love the gift he got you, the necklace is beautiful. I jsut think he’s a cheapskate which is nothing wrong with it either.
I can’t believe you are so concerned about how much he spent on you that you are LOOKING UP PRICES! You sound horrible and you are definitely overreacting. $120 is such an expensive price point, especially when you haven’t even known each other for a year. My boyfriend and I have been together on/off for 6 years and we’ve settled on staying together - you know we got each other for Christmas? Nothing because we are in a tight spot with money. We spend time together and with my family before I had to go to work. Guess what? Neither of us care about getting gifts. We’re just happy we get to spend some time together.
An
Nah if my man said the limit is 120 and he came back w this, it’ll be an issue.
Ni
Looking up the price of a gift is tacky, period. It’s one thing is she was checking the quality and materials but just the price? That’s not right.
Sh
Expensive price point or not, they mutually agreed to it. Everyone’s glad that you’re living happily with your “on/off” boyfriend by not getting gifts, everyone’s different and you had absolutely no right calling her a horrible person. Her points are valid, I’m sure if you guys did eventually start buying each other gifts, you wouldn’t be happy with a gift that was divided. Grow up and watch your tone, belittling other women says a lot about you.
Those that said you're expecting too much or that you're a terrible person for comparing how much you spent... can't relate. I'd be really disappointed, because I'm expecting a gift that's almost $120? Yes he didn't exceed the budget. But if he wasn't going to even exceed $50, then let's keep the budget at $50?? Can't believe he took a pair of socks from you and even mentioned it! The returned promise ring story sounds fishy to me at this point, just to make himself sound good and not a cheapskate. I know I shouldn't be speculating but that's just how it seems to me 🤷🏻♀️I know what I said sounds harsh. I don't mind people saving money and not wanting to spend a lot. But please don't lie and give an overestimate about how much that he / she is able to spend. 🤷🏻♀️ I sincerely don't think that you're disappointed about how much he spent on you. But you're more disappointed that he lied. You knew what his interests were and the money you spent didn't matter. You just wanted him to be happy. But how much thought did he put in getting yours? Only you know.
Ladies! The issue here is his LYING. As you can see, this is from Poshmark, NOT Kohl’s, and its $20, NOT $120. Plus he took half of the other gift for himself! I’d be the most mad about the lying, but sad about the rest of it. He probably never even got u a promise ring...tell him how u feel and that his lying is unacceptable.
Ly
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