How to know how to peak??

Hi all,

This is my first post like this but I was wondering if anyone has the same issue.

So I’m in my early 20’s and healthy as far as I know. But I’m unsure if I’ve ever had an orgasm. I’ve been with two people physically, my current partner I’ve been with for 4 1/2 years.

For sex and masturbation alike I feel myself get to a point where I feel like I’m peaking but I don’t know if I’ve ever actually finished. I only ever get close to peaking when I’m being fingered and usually once I feel close the stimulation becomes almost painful from the sensitivity so I stop.

Is this just me uncomfortable with the feeling or am I doing something wrong? Am I finishing and I’m just expecting it to feel better than it does?

Also, I’ve tried experimenting by myself, I’ve tried toys, I’ve watched videos, I don’t know what to try anymore.

Thanks so much.