Spending Christmas and new year together with my family is giving me so much stress and anxiety. At this point I’m starting to think I’m just the childish one.

My sister is home from Italy and she’s my mom’s favorite. When I say this, I’m serious. She’s born raised in Asian culture and as bad as it sounds, “having favorite” is normal.. I have 2 other sisters but they still live at home and they are still kids. So I feel left out whenever I come home but especially this time since my sister is home also. I’m running after 2 toddlers all day yet I still make dinners and clean whenever I can. But everything I do, I get told wrong. I literally just cut carrots the way my mom told me to, my sister comes in the kitchen and says they are cut too big. So my mom checks in and laughs I’m “incapable”. It’s little things like that all day all night. They are together making feast for New Years dinner and I suggested that I make some sweets. My sisters husband says “oh please don’t” my sister says she doesn’t eat “sweets” we all know she does. My mother tells me I’m making everyone uncomfortable once she saw that I got annoyed by those comments. Even tho after everything I say nothing and continue the day with my kids. I cleaned my little sisters room spotless and they have said nothing. They don’t even recognize that I did. When we went to the restaurant, I just mentioned that waitress is slow since everyone at our table ran out of drinks and napkins etc. then my sister pointed that I’m too privileged and too dependent to other people to do stuff for me. No one in the family defended me. I mean that’s what the waitress is for?!!!!!!!!! My husband is coming in town to be with us tonight but I’m very tempted to leave and have our own New Years at our home. Am I being childish for this?