My child is fortunate enough to have 4 sets of grandparents. One set, my husbands parents, I’ve felt different towards since their first grandchild (our child) came on the scene. With all family on both sides, I have felt that we’ve shared the time together and enjoyed special moments, together. Together being a key thing. With my husbands parents, they are somewhat stand off-ish, inappropriately opinionated on a few parenting things sometimes and I get the impression they’d prefer I wasn’t around, but they have for the most part been cordial with me, if anything rude on a handful of occasions (father in law comes across as a bully on a few occasions)..... there is a tension here that’s never been discussed because it’s difficult to pin point exactly what it is. Unless it’s as simple as their dislike towards me, which could explain it all..... They want to take my child abroad (without us) in a couple of years, something I definitely wouldn’t feel comfortable with especially at such a very young age (under the age of 6/7/8ish) and when they only see my child once every 1-2 months seems like a lot to ask, to take a child away from their safe place (us, the parents). Again, I was never asked this, we were just told that is what they’re going to do.... some of their words and actions cross many boundaries in that kind of sense. It’s a shame, because I love spending time with my husbands grandparents, my child’s great grandparents and there is never any tension until my husbands parents get involved. Even when we meet, their interactions with my child is by side lining me in quite subtle ways.

Am I being uptight? I have felt for a long time that it’s all quite silently toxic....