Should I have?

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My mother passed away 2 years ago from a car wreck. I had a chance to see her body but the coroner suggested I didn’t because of her condition. My moms step dad and her boyfriend went in to see her and came out barely able to walk. But I’m at the point where I just don’t feel like my mother is dead it’s really weird to talk about. My mom was always in and out so it just feels like she’s out and idk if I’ve accepted it or if I’m just waiting to see her again. Idk if I’m weird but I wonder all the time if I should have looked at her body for closure. What would you have done?

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I would not have. I don’t do well with blood or anything like that. I think it’s for the best. You may not have even recognized your mother so it may not have been closure anyway. Closure will come. I think I’d have haunting nightmares of seeing my mother in a situation like that so I think you made the best choice for yourself. I’m sorry for your loss 💕 have you ever considered seeking therapy or grief counseling?

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I would not want to see a loved one in that condition. There can be closure in seeing a loved one after the funeral home has prepared him or her for funeral services. But some choose not to have that and instead do cremation.

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If it helps at all, in my experience losing a parent, I didn’t find that seeing the body really gave much closure in particular. It has still never felt real to me for a number of years, and I still had lots of moments where I thought that person was still alive and went to text them or felt like they would come back from a long trip somewhere eventually. It is sad but it all depends on how you process things, but I think death is hard for lots of people to wrap their head around no matter what.

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I wouldn't have wanted to see her like that, that image could be drilled in your head for the rest of your life. That's awful. It's better to remember her how she was

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I wouldn't have seen her body. What you did is right. Everybody has a different grieving process and maybe you know that you'll never see her again but you can definitely feel her spirit so maybe that's why you don't feel that way.

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I saw my mother's and my aunt's and I wish I NEVER did. Once you see that image, it is apart of you for the rest of your life.
When I saw my mother, I collapsed and screamed "no mama no come back to me. No." And I even tried waking her up.

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I always look. It is a part of my closure process.

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I think whatever you did was right for you, and you made the call that you personally needed to make. If it were me; I think I would have gone in to be with my mother one last time but maybe not physically see her, like if they had a cover over her. It’s more of the presence of being with them for the last time rather than the vision. Hope all is well.

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I would not have. My mom always says to remember people how they were before. My moms friend had cancer and her last week of living she got extremely skinny and her eyes got sunken in and just looked completely not like herself and my mom says seeing her not looking like herself was hard and she wished she hadn’t seen it. She’s glad she got to see her before she passed but seeing her so different made it harder. Everyone accepts things differently but me personally I would not because I think it would make it worse.

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