At the end of 2014 I found out I'd be having a child in march of 2015, my mind was blown, I was only 20, I was angry because I wasnt going to get to go out and party and do whatever it is a 21 year old does, I was also angry because I didnt want to ruin my body, now that I look back and my self centered self I laugh. But at that time it was very real to me, I never broke 120 pounds my whole life, but on march 19, 2015 after having my daughter I was 230 pounds, I wasnt mad i carried a little girl that i was so proud of having. For years after having her I tried to lose weight and I just couldnt get under 200 pounds and never understood why..until I analysed my relationship, it was toxic, we both didnt want to be with one another, we fought constantly, in February of 2018 I finally left and got my own apartment. I knew not only myself but my daughter didnt deserve that. Now we have been broken up for almost 2 years and I cant believe the difference I'm finally under 200 pounds again and just feeling great about myself. And it makes me laugh because I can see how it bothers my ex that I've just dropped the weight like it's nothing! So my advice never stay together for the child(ren), you arent only hurting yourself but it's not what they should be seeing! If anyone ever needs to talk, I'm always available!