Hes pissing me off.

My SO is 28 his brother is 21. He constantly continues to hang out with him to drink and smoke like he doesnt have a family at home leaving me pregnant and dealing with our 3 (4 next month) old child by myself. I'm tired I'm frustrated. I just want to cry. It's always been an issue. He doesnt see anything wrong and gets upset when I ask him where he is, when is he coming home, or what hes doing. I'm just so tired of it. We planned this 2nd child and here I am stressed constantly and telling him means nothing. I feel like just leaving sometimes but I know my daughter loves him and I just wished he would care or pay more attention to us. I'm scared this will continue when baby # 2 is born and idk if I can handle that. I just had to vent sorry for ranting.

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Am

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My only advice is leave. Even if it's temporary. Call a friend or family member and make it a weekend get away or something for you and the kiddo. Leave for a weekend. Don't call/text him. That's the hardest part. Take enough stuff to get you through the weekend, go have some fun with family/friends and your child. Sometimes coming home to an empty house is the wake-up call childish guys need. Just be prepared. This can go 2 different ways. 1- you'll get the result you want. He'll realize what he's missing out on, and y'all can have a heart to heart. 2-he'll see it as more freedom/less "nagging" (i use that term as most guys see texts asking those questions as nagging), and he'll enjoy it. Both outcomes will show you what your next step should be. Please remember: it is perfectly ok to leave a relationship even when you have kids. Your child loves him, and that's great! You're not ending his father/daughter relationship. You're ending your unhappy relationship with him! It's ok to walk away and be happy! You deserve it. I would suggest some counseling at least for yourself. He needs to seek it to so maybe y'all can figure out why he's decided that the bachelor lifestyle is so enticing while he's got a family. Couples counseling is a great option, but it's on him to want to get help for himself and agree to y'all going together as well. I wish you the best of luck! ❤

Ka

Ka • Jan 6, 2020
Perfect response 👏👏👏

As

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It’s always been an issue. Read that over and over, this won’t change. So either expect it or make yourself happy and learn to coparent

mr

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Of course it will continue. If he’s done it, is doing it still then he will continue to do it. Having a child doesn’t just change people. He’s obviously not fine with partying yet.