I’m now 12w post partum and have such a low sex drive (breastfeeding and tiredness). My fiancé is amazing in every way especially when it comes to doing his fair share of baby duties but the only thing that is driving me insane at the minute is how much he tries it on with me for sex (I’ve talked to him about how I feel right now and assured him this isn’t forever).

Thing is there are three things that are bugging me and I finally came clean tonight and confessed why I feel a bit “off”:

1. He’s interested in the back door - I am not. He’s always trying to be cheeky about it and moving his hand round there and I always have to stop him and he will try 2-3 times every time we have sex.

2. He’s always commenting/joking about lack of oral sex. its only really been since pregnancy and birth so I’m just simply not in the mood for that right now

The 3rd thing is something he can’t help but when I opened up about this he was just like “well I dno what I can do to fix that”. - when using hands during foreplay I feel like I get flashbacks to when I was induced as the nurse who inserted my prostin tablet was very rough with her hands and also quite rude about it when I cried out in pain. When my partner uses his hand I always flit back to this memory and feel like I’m seizing up and struggle to get myself back in the mood to carry on.

I’m not sure what the point in this post was but I just feel pretty shit right now, I’m always worrying the lack of sex is going to drive him away 😓