Help! Welcoming all opinions- Edit update

As above title mentions, I'm looking for all types of opinions and advice.

So big question, regardless of gender, if your significant other was using dildos constantly (every day and they're big, well fist size if that helps) and you see they have bruised nipples from using some sort of suction toy but won't play with you like that, what would you do?

Is all that play okay? Let's say you still have sex a couple times a week max, but you know they're always having their time like that. Is that weird? Please let me know what you guys think... We have been together for a while and it's something that I'm not sure I want to deal with anymore because I'm starting to feel like their playtime is more important than our sex. How do you tell them for the millionth time without kink shaming? Help please!

Edit update

Thanks for responding those of you who did, I prefer to remain anon so I refrained from commenting, however y'all are right, and feeling validated to bring it up again is appreciated.