Advice for talking to husband.

My husband and I have been fighting more recently and I am just sick of it. Our little girl is almost 10 months old, and I don’t want her earliest memories to be of her parents fighting all the time. Since our girl was born I have been out of the house alone for some “me

time” one time, about a month ago. The entire time I was gone, my husband was sending me texts every 5 minutes. I was gone less than 2 hours. I’m not joking when I say my phone was going off the entire time I was out.

I was trying to Christmas shop for him and our girl, and I couldn’t even enjoy doing it by myself because it’s like they were both there the entire time.

However, every single weekend he has plans with one (or multiple) of his friends and I am

just expected be okay with him staying gone as long as he wants, and with him just messaging me when he wants to talk.

I’m the one who is with our daughter 24/7. She doesn’t like to sleep, she’s clingy, and well, she’s just doing the many things that babies do. It’s not her fault, and she doesn’t know any better. I just need time by myself, too. I can’t be the only one on call everyday. He thinks that because he works and I stay home, he’s automatically entitled to just do whatever he wants whenever he wants. I had to give up school to take care of our baby because we don’t have anyone willing to watch her during the day, and for a while we couldn’t afford child care (still really can’t, but it’s got to happen anyway). My point being, I’ve given everything for this child. He’s still living like he did before we had her and is quick to point out how HE works to support us so he deserves rest and to hang out with friends.

Then when I get frustrated because I’m trying to function on almost no sleep, and I’m hurting because the sleep I did manage to get happened to be on the couch, he calls me a bitch because I don’t have the patience to deal with him complaining about childish things. When I’ve tried to sit him down and explain to him what I NEED, a nap or a trip out of the house by myself to just clear my head, he turns everything around on me and makes me feel like a horrible mother and wife for feeling the least bit burnt out. I don’t know what to do. I need for things to change. I love my girl, she is the biggest blessing I have ever received, but I feel like I can’t be the mom she deserves and give her all of my attention because I can’t even take a break to renew myself.