Happy Sunday ladies!

I know I complain a lot on this app but this time I need real advice from y’all.

My son turned 2 on October 25th and we are having issues with him on multiple things.

He’s our middle child, his sisters are 4 and 5 months old.

For a few months now we have tried to 1) convert his crib to a toddler bed 2) wean him off his pacifier and 3) potty train. None of that’s working.

1) He loves his crib. I think it makes him feel safe and he likes the small space. We have tried converting the crib to a toddler bed around his birthday, thinking that he was ready and would enjoy a little more freedom. He refused to even get in, throwing a tantrum and crying until we placed the railing back on it. He has not once tried to climb out but I know he would be able to if he tried and that worries me a bit. Every time we had to have him sleep elsewhere ie on vacation, my mother’s house, he refuses to sleep in a normal bed. He’s clearly not ready to transition but I can’t help but wonder if something deeper is going on. At daycare he still sleeps in a crib too and I’ve been told they would need him to sleep in a regular bed as they need the room but I have no idea what to do to make the transition easier for him.

2) Those damn pacifiers. He has had the same wubbanub giraffe one for as long as I can remember and he won’t let go of it. I’ve tried just removing the paci part and let him have the giraffe-nope. We tried to wean him off of it gradually- started by removing it at naps - that seemed to be okay - tried at night- nope. Half the time he doesn’t even put it in his mouth anymore he just chews on the giraffe. I know I could just throw it out completely- I’ve tried to hide it before - but he’d steal his sister’s ones and unlike him she actually needs it 😬

3) Potty training hell. That’s the one that confuses me the most. One day he rips off his diaper as soon as it’s on him and yells that he needs to pee, the other he doesn’t say a word and we change it like we normally would. He has been showing signs that indicate readiness for close to a year now. Take off his diaper as soon as it has something in it and throw it in the garbage. Will sit on the potty for hours. Will even tell us sometimes before he needs to go. But like I said, it isn’t consistent. Is there anything I can do about that? Should I wait a little longer before trying something else again? My daughter was absolute hell to potty train and I’m trying to be as patient as possible but I can’t help but wonder if I’m doing something wrong in all of this.

Also I feel like it started as soon as we had our youngest daughter. I don’t know if it’s jealousy or something related to her - I’ve talked to his pediatrician and she says that all babies develop at different rates , obviously I know that but everything else he’s doing great - eating, getting dressed, can count to 20, knows his alphabet, etc.

I’ll take all the help I can get. Please.