i’m curious.. advice please ladies?

so, i only masturbate like once a month tops. i’ve never had much interest in it, so i need something to spice it up, so to speak. i’ve used a shower head and vibrating toothbrush but nothing makes me go all the way. i don’t really want anything to go into me either, i’ve been somewhat fingered before and i’m just super tight, so it’s always very painful. any advice or tips?