Successful VBAC after this type of c-section?

Question

Hi everyone! Please stick with me here.. in need of encouragement. 
So I had an emergency c section with my first baby 9 months ago. I went in to be induced at 40 weeks exactly at 9pm because I gained 11 pounds the last week and my blood pressure was high. By 5:30 am my water naturally broke and I was pushing shortly after, for 4 hours. 
She was super close to coming out, you could see her head coming, but after intense back labor and lack of progress, they decided an emergency c section was best to prevent paralysis (terrifying). 
The numbing wasn’t working so they put me under general anesthesia. I started losing a lot of blood and they ended up “kicking” my husband out of the OR. 
A while later they invited him back in to see our beautiful baby daughter weighing in at 8lbs 5oz and perfectly healthy. (With a head in the 99th percentile!!)
A couple hours later I woke up and was okay. 
I was traumatized by the whole situation and still am. I hate that that was my first birthing experience. I hate that I feel like my body failed me. ( I know a lot of people will say my body didn’t, but I can’t help but feel that way. Especially after trying so hard the natural way.. and it not working). 
So my question is, if you’re still reading, did anyone at all have this same situation or a similar one, and still experience a successful vbac? I can’t wrap my head around the fact that I may never give birth the way I’ve always imagined.. the doctor said only 30% of people with my situation have successful vbacs. Is there any of those 30% on here..? 
I know a healthy baby is what’s most important, but I just hate that I want able to give birth that way..

Answer

I had a similar experience when I had my son, I was a week overdue eventually went into labour but it was progressing slowly. They tried to induce me multiple times and lost his heart rate at one point. Eventually they took me for an emergency c section. He was 8 lbs 12 oz and his head was also in the 99th percentile. It wasn’t the experience I wanted but he is a happy healthy almost 3 year old ( who still has a big head). When I was pregnant with my daughter my plan was to have a vbac however as my date date approached she was measuring large as well especially in her shoulders and tummy region. The doctor said I had a 20-30 percent of a vaginal delivery, however because her stomach and shoulders were so large it was likely they would have to break her shoulders to get them out. I opted to have a planned c section on my due date. It went very smoothly and she was pretty big 8 lbs 13 ozs. The planned c section was definitely easier and less stressful. She is now a healthy 1 year old and I’m 17 weeks pregnant. I remember feeling like my body failed me as well but it doesn’t really matter how my kids got here, all that matters is they are healthy and so am I because they need their mom for so much more then just giving birth to them.

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Mine was so similar, too! With my daughter, my water broke early in the morning at 39 weeks. We went in, I labored fine all day and was able to start pushing that night. I pushed for almost 2 hours and you could see her head coming, but we couldn’t get her out. They tried the vacuum on her twice, but that didn’t work so then an emergency c-section was decided based upon her stress and heart rate. 
They brought me back and got me ready but the spinal wasn’t kicking in fast enough for the distress she was in. My husband hadn’t even been allowed in the operating room yet when they told me he couldn’t come in and that they needed to make the incision. I will forever remember the doctor’s words telling me that I needed to take a deep breath because I was going to feel a fair amount of it. I remember crying and screaming, begging for them to put me out. I heard my daughter cry, but never saw her before I was asleep. 
I awoke alone in the operating room except for a few nurses cleaning and working on a computer. The anesthesia made me throw up and I was basically on my own. A nurse came in and told me my daughter’s length and weight and said she was with my husband. I was told I would have to wait an hour in recovery before I could go see them. 
I finally got to go back to my room and meet her when she was a few hours old. I never got to hold her on my chest or have skin to skin in those first moments. It still makes me sad, but she’s a happy, healthy almost 4-year-old now, which is all that matters. 
My recovery was absolutely brutal. It hurt to even go on walks at home for at least a good month afterwards. 
I am currently 16 weeks with our second and hoping that I can do a VBAC this time. 🤞🏼

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I had the EXACT same situation. We made it so far with getting induced for my baby head to get stuck I pushed for 3 hrs . I ended up have a csection and lost a lot of blood I had to have 2 blood transfusions. my baby head was Also in the 95% and still is 2 years later . My epidural didn’t work and they tried 3x nothing . Yes the whole process crushed me but I’m doing my research on vbac since were officially going to start trying in August! So I have all the same questions as you . I look at all the vbac stories I even asked my doctor a 1000 and 1 x if I was a good candidate if the hospital was vbac friendly and also found a birth center that works with them so I can have a doula .

Successful VBAC after this type of c-section?

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