Starting to resent my toddler

And it's so sad. But he DOESN'T LISTEN. I am starting to loose it. I love him to death but I feel different about him since his sister came. I try to keep my cool and implement love and logic but I just have no patience for his behavior. He is almost three. He is incredibly smart and can be so sweet, but he just hasn't adjusted well to me splitting my attention. Part of the problem is we are stuck in the house b/c I'm trying to keep them healthy. They both had rsv already and the baby was in the hospital for 4 days. So we are all a little stir crazy. Any advice?

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Oh I am happy to read this because I feel the EXACT same way... I have a 4 year old and since the birth of his brother he has become a raging brat! Doesn’t listen, purposely misbehaves, acts annoying to get attention (the wrong kind of attention). I am trying my best but I dread the days that I know I will be home alone all day with both of them. Hoping that this phase will pass soon for the both of us.

Pe

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I feel this. I had a total meltdown the other day because I feel unable to be the mom my toddler deserves. She's so sweet and kind but also super spirited and high energy and needy and it's overwhelming. I don't have any tips, but you're not alone!

Je

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Wow. I thought I was alone. I’m going through the exact same thing each lady commented. It’s so hard right now. I’m still struggling balancing two kids. I purposely won’t go somewhere, but on the brighter side I’m saving money. My girl can get into the freezer now and she likes to when I can’t keep a eye on her. She can have a ice cream sandwich unwrapped in 10 seconds and eating it.🤦‍♀️

Pe

Pen • Jan 29, 2020
We put a lock on the fridge! My daughter will open it and pull out snacks all the time unless we lock it! We're just using one of the sticky childproofing locks you could use on cabinets and stuff, works great (when we lock it!)

Sa

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I have a 3.5 year old, 19 month old, and my two month old. I have help from grandma most days to keep the older two entertained because it’s so hard and I can’t do it alone yet without a schedule. I know with my second it got easier around 4-6 months when the baby can do other things and the older one doesn’t feel as attention robbed. It’s hard I’m trying to figure out having three. They do wait till you’re at your most vulnerable to eat things they shouldn’t or act out. The weather is horrible so it’s hard to go outside where I am too, but once the baby is old enough to be in a carrier forward facing and go outside when it’s nice it’s also easier. No way out but through I guess?

do

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It is hard. I have a 19mo and it is just frustrating. He always waits until I breastfeeding or have a sleeping baby to get into everything known to man. Hes also started pitching temper tantrums. He doesnt talk well yet so he cant even tell us what he wants or what's wrong. I'm so frustrated and exhausted

Me

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Ugggg yes! My toddler (2 years and 3 months) was splashing in the sink and making a mess instead of washing his hands- I had to pause and remember he is still a little guy too! I’m finding ways he can be a “big helper” put away some dishes, wipe the table, and chairs, fold the laundry, measure out ingredients for dinner... all these things take longer with him doing it BUT he feels so proud of himself and helps boost his self confidence which he really needs right now since I’m so focused on the baby.... also just lots of tv... can you go for a walk or go out where you won’t be around others to avoid RSV?

Ka

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My 3 almost 4 yo was the exact same way. He was fine until about 4-5 weeks in, then I wondered where my sweet boy went. He is doing much better since we are back in our normal routine of going back to work and the babysitter. I think he needed routine and out of the house so much.

Ka

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I am also feeling the EXACT SAME! I feel so bad and end up yelling and then cry because he doesn’t deserve a mom who is fed up with him constantly. But he DOES NOT listen. Also, he’s a damn dare devil and it’s terrifying. He’s also started trying to pick the baby up if I look away for a second. I’m struggling.