In-laws and money! *UPDATE*

My husband and I give $700 monthly to his parents. Every few months his parents ask for more.

The latest example: His dad, mom and brother returned from a trip to see family. My husband told me last weekend that in addition to the $700 we already gave them this month, that he would like to give them $500 more in order to help pay for the trip.

This financial dependancy just doesn't sit well with me. This trip was by no means necessary. It was pure luxury. So why would we pay for extra expenses when they weren't even needed?

On a day-to-day basis, I also see a lot of other financial inefficiencies which make me think "why did they need to buy that?", or "why didn't they just save the money instead?" or "do they really need money from us?".

I just don't think that they are managing their money properly because they know they have a safety net - us!

I'm worried about my future. What happens when we have kids (we are currently TTC)? Our expenses will sky rocket! We won't have the flexibility to give extra money on top of the monthly amount.

How do my husband and I prevent this from happening in the future? What do I say to my husband?

Some context:

- His dad is 65yo, works a physically demanding job which probably pays $60-70k. He will retire soon.

- His mom doesn't work, never has.

- Basically whatever money comes in gets spent. There is no concept of saving.

- His brother works as a CPA (ironic, I know), lives with his parents, and also gives money to his parents.

- My husband and I both work, and equally contribute to our own household. We live on our own.

- In my culture, there is this underlying expectation for sons to send money to their parents. Although, my family has never followed this and I personally think it is an outdated mentality.

- My husband has a soft spot for his parents (who wouldn't) and thinks "so what if they go on a trip? they deserve it! they have done so much for me!".

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*UPDATE*

My husband ended up giving the $500 to his parents to help them pay for their trip in December. And guess what?? Now his mom is going on yet another trip in March. I was FURIOUS when I found out.

Help. Don’t know what to do