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Definitely not alone! We’ve been married for 10 months and I’m in the same boat. We agreed to wait at least until later this year but my baby fever gets stronger every day. In my case, even though we aren’t actively trying, I’m using this time to really focus on getting my body prepared. I’m working out more, eating healthier and researching prenatals, things like that. It helps because even if you’re not pregnant you feel like you’re at least starting the process. Wishing you guys the best!
Premature Baby Fever? Or maternal instincts?
So I just got married about 8 months ago. In the engagement stage we both decided we’d wait a year or two so we can travel and see the world before a baby comes into the picture. Well lately I’ve been insanely baby hungry, working retail doesn’t help with all the moms that come in that are pregnant or have little babies and they are talking about how it’s their first and buying their first maternity clothes.
It comes in waves, some days it’s not so bad and other days it’s so bad I’m listening to “sleeping Baby” white noise.
My Husband though wants to wait till summer to discuss it but I’m at the point where I hope and pray our condom has an accidental hole in it or I’ll be one of the rare people that get pregnant on accident on day two of my period. Hell I’ve been tempted to poke holes in all of our condoms but I know that wouldn’t be fare on my husband and even though I want it to happen that badly, I also want to make sure we are all set and on the same page. But I don’t know how to calm my uterus down. I swear she does a somersault when I see a baby, a baby outfit, or a cute maternity shirt. I’ve tried telling myself we can’t afford one, after we get a new used car with more than 2 doors, once my husband is doing better with school. I know there’s no “right time” but I believe there is a better time or better situation to have kids but also with us only being married 8 months I feel like I’m getting baby hungry a little early. My mom thinks my maternal instincts are kicking in and my bodies just ready to get the factory started. But my husband has said no and no amount of reasoning changes his mind. Luckily like I said earlier in this post it’s not a desperate need all the time, it comes in waves and I mainly want suggestions or to know I’m not alone in this feeling/situation 😓
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Can you guys compromise and maybe start talking about it in the spring instead of summer? I felt like this too for a while but ultimately you don’t want to have a baby with someone who isn’t ready to have a baby.But also it can take a while to conceive sometimes. I wanted to start trying immediately after we got married, my husband wanted to wait a year. We ended up starting to try 4 months into marriage. We’ve now been married 8 months and still not pregnant. So looks like my husband is going to get more of his way after all (because it’ll be closer to a year, if not more than that by the time we get pregnant...) and he’s saying he’s glad we started trying sooner than he initially wanted because he didn’t expect it to be so tough.
I feel the same way!Originally when we got married we always said we wanted to wait 2 years before we started trying to have children. I’ve had moments where I would get phased if baby fever that would come and go and also me and my husband talk about having children. Well lately my baby fever came back but hard and it’s way worse than it was before. Now I’m constantly wanting to watch vlogs on YouTube of mommas talking about pregnancy and mama life, I’ll be on social media and be seeing babies and mammas every where and all I want is to be in their shoes. I brought it up to my husband and at first he was still wanting to wait 2 years but then I caught him watching the shows I was watching and after a few days of us seriously planning a talking he started saying “oh man, I really want a daughter with you. I want a little us running around. I think I’m starting to get baby fever..” haha oops but we did say that this year we were buying a house so we can have room for a baby 👶. I definitely think preparing your body for a baby is definitely better than doing nothing at all to help with baby fever. We will see where all our journeys take us.
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Also we’ve been married 1 yr and together for 5 years.
That’s what I’m thinking too. But I also have no idea when I ovulate so I’ve even started talking about going to a fertility check up to talk to them but my husband thinks we should wait till we make the decision to start trying but I want to know ahead of time. But he’s in school right now and doesn’t want to deal with doctors appointments that pertain to something he’s not ready for. So idk what to do. I’m living with this desire to have a baby and fear that I won’t be able to have a baby or that it will just take forever 😓
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