He Bought Another Gun.. Am I over reacting?

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So my boyfriend of 7 YEARS has bought another gun.. Why am I so annoyed? Well we planned on getting engaged after I graduated college it's been 2 years since I've graduated and I'm still not engaged.. Last night he told me he bought another gun ANOTHER GUN! I have expressed my desires to get engaged and I feel like he gas lights me... He has so many guns (he's a big hunter) and he does buy them with his own money but I feel like between him buying cars and guns he could just buy me a dang ring!
We have been together 7 years have 3 kids together bought a house together and both have very successful careers.. and I hate to say it but I'm really tired of seeing people get married and engaged when I feel like I should be the one getting married..  Also yes I have expressed my wants with him...

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You already gave him everything. He probably doesn’t see a need to get married when he has kids, a house, a partner. You want to be married, maybe to him now it’s not that important.

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I get that you're annoyed, guns are expensive. But it sounds like you guys have done everything BUT get married; bought a house together, have children together, vehicles and bills and expenses I'm guessing are combined? So I'm guessing he doesn't see it as neccessary. Guys seem to think that they avoid putting a ring on it if they set up house, pop out some kids and do everything but the wedding. I don't get the logic but we see it everywhere. I'm sure he's looking around at all you two have built and thinking "wtf does she need a ring/wedding for? What's the point in putting all that money into something like that?"

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He sounds like he doesn’t want to get engaged/married. This is a conversation you need to seriously revisit and ASAP as I feel you’ll grow in resentment if you let it go on for much longer without addressing your individual and joint wants/needs.

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I’d also be upset. It seems like getting married isn’t that important to him. I know you’ve expressed your wants, but have you guys ever sat down and had a serious conversation about your future and both of your wants and needs?

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Had he expressed a desire to marry or are you the one pushing for it? If he bought it with his own money I don't see why you should get mad. It is his money he can spend it how he wants.

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Babe from a mans point of view, theres no reason to marry a woman who already gave you everything without a ring. Sorry but it's your fault. I dont think he will marry you or has a reason to

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He’s comfortable. You guys already live together, already have kids together so you have a life together. He sees no need for a ring .

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Sounds like he doesn’t want to get married...pushing him won’t change that.

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I don’t think he intends on marrying you. He’s got everything that goes with a marriage without being married. He likes things the way they are. I’d have a heart to heart and then decide if not getting married is something you can deal with.

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If you feel he gaslights you then why do you even want to marry him?

He Bought Another Gun.. Am I over reacting?

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