I really need serious advice. I might be wrong having this kind of perspective but I want some honest opinions.

So me and my bf have been together for almost two years. Our sex life is good but it took me some time to understand what he liked and how he was. I’ve only had two sexual partners and my previous bf was very very hyped and expressing it which actually made me feel desired. But he had words and little action and I even struggled to orgasm with him.

While my partner now is not the kind of a guy who will shower you with compliments and attention, I must admit that I am really enjoying sex now, I am able to orgasm and he always takes care of that. Sex with him is more quality over quantity. We don’t live together and we have sex at least once or twice a week.

In the beginning though he was the one initiating sex more. And lately it seems like he is in this lazy mode and even when I tease him verbally or send him pictures he just gives little reaction.

Meanwhile sex is same good.

I asked him and he said it’s not true and that he is very attracted to me etc. It went okay for some weeks, he started to express more. But it’s like lukewarm again.

It’s like only when I remind him, he become more expressive with words and I really like that.

So unfortunately i’ve been thinking about this a loooot and feeling like he is bored or not attracted that much anymore. And the idea makes me sad and i don’t feel like sex is natural for me lately because it feels like an achievement for me. Maybe it’s just me having bad thoughts. Because beside me thinking this way, the quality of our intimacy is still the same, same pace.

In daily life he is still lovely and sweet and caring. Nothing has changed.

I need some advice because maybe I also am not the best one when it comes to initiating but I feel that getting the feeling he is really attracted gets me on.