What age to get married ?

I am one of those who believe there’s no age to get married and a woman should not feel pressured by society to get into a marriage.

However, when you’re in a relationship, it’s a different situation.

I’m in my 25th year and I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year. It’s still a new relationship compared to the 5 years relationship i had before this one. We’ve talked about marriage since day 1 because our intention is to be together long term.

My boyfriend is the same age as me and is talking about getting married between 2025 and 2029 (i get it because for men, it’s more reasonable to get married around 30). I will be 30-34 yo my friends.. Problem is, in his mind, we’re supposed to wait until marriage to have children.

I’ve grown up with single mothers and aunties and I have this goal which is to never be dependent of a man in any way (financially, emotionally). The way I see things, if i am ready to have children, i will not wait for an engagement ring. I will have my babies with or without him.

He says it’s selfish. What do you think ?