I have been an awful person in the past, from talking about my boyfriend in a negative manner back in high school, to hundreds of fights, jealousy, bitterness, you name it.

Well, naturally, this made his family hate me. I understood that and accepted it, but as time went on it seemed as though things had gotten better. Then we broke up. For two months, and I dated another boy rather quickly because when I tell y’all that breakup broke me, it BROKE me. I needed someone there because I could not handle being alone, also a mistake. This made his sister especially hate me.

However, my boyfriend and I got back together. I’ve been trying to get closer with God and be a better person altogether, and things have been 100% better. We put the past behind us, matured, and what we have now is almost perfect.

Here’s my issue, I still feel like deep down his family can’t stand me. His aunts, grandparents, and father are nice to me. But I can’t help but feel like it’s not real.

Well tonight, the family found out that his grandpa has cancer. He calls his sister to break the news and the first thing she says when she picks up is “oh my God, is (my name) pregnant” and then after the conversation is over she calls him back, makes short conversation and says “well this is worse than her being pregnant”

I’m not going to lie and say it didn’t upset me. Because it did. But should it have? I want nothing more than to be best friends with this girl truly. I love his family including her. But I’m really struggling with how to handle this in a Godly way and avoid being upset.