My mother in law has zero respect for us. She is constantly smothering us and never respects our decisions and rules. I’m 10 weeks pregnant and have been dealing with migraines for days now and just want to rest. She talks A LOTT and I can’t entertain her for that long. She sends us a million group messages about quotes and things about herself and church, what is best for us, etc. and gets mad when we don’t get a chance to respond to it all. It’s too much. She asked us via text if her and my FIL can come over today when we see them at least twice a week. She said to see “Diesel” my dog 🤔 which I think she said bc she knows she’s asking too much. We moved 45 minutes away and always try to make time for them when we’re available. Nobody responded to her message in time so she calls my husband and begs. Literally begs to come over and he said “We just saw you, maybe another time.” I could hear her saying “oh come onnn pleaseee just for a bit”. He makes it known she is too much but she doesn’t care (he also lets me tell her off and says “good luck”). Later that night my husband and I laughed at how she’ll call one of us in the morning to try AGAIN. Well, what do you know. She called herself and then had my FIL call 4 times. What the hell? No means no. What do I do? When I say blunt things to her about it she gets sarcastic and will say things like “THANKS for allllowing us to come over. Thaaank you”. Seriously? I’ve known her for a decade and she’s a very Godly woman and very sweet but pushes and smothers us WAY too much. I’m terrified for when my baby is born on how she will push and push and not respect me and my husband.

She literally says things like “Not trying to be rude but...” then she’ll say something that gives me the option to feel that she could be coming off rude. My husband always points that out to her. She’s never telling me I’m wrong but always wants me to see her way.

I’ve never been afraid to be straight up with her but maybe I can’t find the right words to say. She lived with all boys growing up and has two sons and her husband. They just kind of dealt with it but now I’m suffering. Any suggestions on what I can say/do?

Thanks for reading this far 😜 #EndRant