I am currently 16 weeks pregnant with my first baby girl...My boyfriend of 4 years gave up his visa and moved back to the UK when i decided to continue the pregnancy saying that he’s not ready to be a dad & couldn’t believe i would continue it without his consent etc. To this day he refuses to look at a single ultrasound picture..doesn’t want to know anything about the pregnancy etc. (it was a very long & nasty argument) Now he’s saying he would like to come visit for the birth but then go back to the UK...I’m torn he told me I have to live with and accept the consequences of choosing to continue the pregnancy which is him leaving....So shouldn’t he have to live with the consequences of his decision? You don’t get to be a daddy when it’s convenient & on your own terms am I right? I just feel like the birth is such a vulnerable and emotional time so i also can’t help but think how upset and hurt I will feel all over again seeing him meet her and then leave all over again? However one of my girl friends gave me a real piece of her mind saying i’m being selfish and withholding his daughter from him and that i’m hurting my daughter by doing so? I disagree and feel like explaining to a little girl why “daddy” comes around once a year is much more cruel. Thoughts?

P.S. i have no bad feelings toward my ex I just genuinely feel protective of my daughters little heart and feel that i’ve accepted his decision to leave but that he should also have to accept that