I first apologize how long this post is but I need some advice here. :( My husbands brother has a 2 year old baby boy and I feel that my husbands parents are favoring their child.

My husband travels a lot for work so it’s me taking care of everything: my first baby, the house, myself, online school for my masters. I never get a text or phone call from my in-laws asking how I am or if they can come by and help me with the baby or help me in any kind of way. I just found out today that my in laws take the 2 year old EVERY weekend (Friday-Sunday) so my husbands brother and his wife can have date nights and just get a break. I am so hurt by this and pretty pissed. Now I will say that I absolutely love my son and I do not expect anyone to care for him, I don’t expect family to do anything for me but this is hurtting me now that I know they do this for the brother. I never get offered help like that. When my husband is home, it would be nice if they offered us a date night and watch our baby for a few hours. Am I wrong? They do this every weekend for the brother?! Idk if they are favoriting that child or if it could be something else. I just don’t know why they offer to take and care for their child the whole weekend, every weekend when I can’t even get one date night with my husband. Why don’t they reach out to me ever? I’ve been really close to my in-laws, nothings ever came between us so I can’t understand what could possibly be keeping them away from reaching out and offering. I try talking to my husband and he just thinks I’m being shitty towards his family- saying I shouldn’t expect them to offer or watch out baby. My husband also doesn’t understand that I need a break too sometimes. My husband gets breaks all the time during work travel- he eats fancy meals/gets quit Hotel suites, he has it all so he just doesn’t understand how this hurts me I guess. My in-laws are the ones reaching out to the brother asking to take their baby every weekend to spend time, but I don’t get this from them.

Does anyone have any advice or gone through something similar?