So I love my mother-in-law dearly and she is kind to my daughter and has always bought her stuff and wanted to spend time with her. She has never watched my daughter before or had to and she wants to eventually and I don't feel comfortable. In the past she lost custody of her son (my husband) because she let a guy beat him as a child for protecting his handicapped brother from being hit by her hookup buddy. She used to sleep with random men in front of her kids even when they were like older. My husband has an older child she watched once as a baby and she ended up in the hospital under her care because she gave her prune juice as an infant and was told not to. She denies it to this day.

My husband and I stayed with her and our daughter 3 days and she stayed up all night on her phone and blared her music on her phone and snap chatted and Facebooked until 2:00 AM in the morning all 3 nights and left lights on while our daughter was trying to sleep in the living room with her and didn't get up or hear her every morning and was passed out snoring. She has hardly ever offered to feed or change our baby girl when we have visited and refused to when she pooped. She told me the third day I stayed there I could lay down and she would care for our daughter because I had a migraine and the minute I laid down she had her boyfriend come over and she handed my daughter to me in bed said she was to fussy and didn't know how to deal with her so she was just going to give her to me.

She knew our daughter was teething and I gave her a teether and her ibuprofen to give her. She didn't even care for her 30 minutes and brought her to me.

My husband was visiting his other child at this time.

She only acknowledges her grandchildren long enough to take pictures of them or pictures with her then they become invisible or she takes pictures with them holding what she bought them. She won't hardly visit or talk to my husband's daughters unless theyare brought to see her or we call her. On her days off she never comes to see them and when she is told what time to call them she always wants to call when our kids asleep. She does work late but won't even call on her breaks. She was completely rejected by my husbands daughter's mom to see his daughter so I don't want to be the same way but I also know she has made me uncomfortable with the idea of leaving our daughter with her. Am I wrong for feeling like this? I don't want to alienate her from her grandbaby but I don't want to let her watch her then something bad happens to our kid.