Has cosleeping effected your marriage or relationship?

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So my husband and I are having a problem with the cosleeping now. In the beginning we tried the bassinet and it worked but it was tiring for me since I Breastfeed. But now 4 months later...him sleeping on the couch practically every night because me and baby are usually spreader across the bed by the time he’s about to go has started to effect us. 
I know it’s my fault. I enjoy the convenience of being able to nurse him back to sleep, the comfort of sleeping next to him and I feel like I’m missing out on time with him. I keep saying at 6 months I’m going to make the change to put him into his crib at night. But honestly the way my marriage is going and based on how my husband feels, it may be too long of a wait.
I really just could use some advice to help me make the transition. I can’t believe I am even having this issue, I told myself before pregnancy and during that I wouldn’t cosleep and here I am lol.
Please help!

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Man... okay.. you just got to cut the cord lol.... now when I started to put my son in his own room I would constantly check on him like every 15 minutes... I would do laps around the house and always find myself back in his room .... but every night got less and less.. he baby monitor is ALWAYS on so that really helps with the peace of mind. 
So we have an extra bed in the baby room for him and I when he was just born .. I really missed sleeping next to my boyfriend. So then I started putting the baby in the bassinet in our room .. then he went into his crib when he out grow the halo bassinet and that was around 3 months. And he’s slept in his crib by himself no problems . He loves his crib

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We cosleeped until the middle of 4 months. My son is 5 months now.  When I say cosleep I mean baby next to me but in his bassinet not bed sharing....For us though it was me sleeping on the couch and my husband in bed. I only did that because my husband works so hard and I'm a sahm so I felt like he deserved uninterrupted sleep most nights. It didnt effect our marriage though. To be honest I thought it was going to be so hard transitioning him to his crib in his own room but it wasnt. My baby was so clingy, always needed to be held and rocked while shushing rubbing his head or hand on chest without these things he would not sleep. Eventually I started putting him in his crib asleep for naps, then started doing it while awake and spending time in his room so he was comfortable with his room. Sometimes he would cry for 5-10 minutes and I would just stand over his crib soothing him and he would fall asleep. Now when he takes a nap or bedtime he talks to himself and goes right to sleep almost no fuss. I wasnt going to make the switch because I didnt think it would be successful but it was and I'm glad I did it.

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In the same exact position we haven’t slept in the same bed in four months . We don’t co sleep / bed share whatever you want to call it every night. But honestly when we do that’s the best sleep me and my LO both get . I have started doing research about bed sharing and it’s actually very beneficial . Other countries do it and have very low SID rates

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We did cosleeping in our bed most nights and hubby stayed in the room in bed with us 🤷‍♀️ we had a barrier between his side and mine and babies side and never any issues. I offered for him to sleep in our spare room, but he didn’t want to feel separated from his family.

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Why is he sleeping on the couch? Hubby and I have co-slept with our 4mo old since birth, and literally we all get a full night’s sleep most nights. I wake up when the baby does, we roll over to switch sides and then we both fall back asleep while he’s nursing. My husband is the deepest sleeper I’ve ever met, and never, not once, has he encroached in the baby’s space, in fact, when I roll over with the baby, so he’s between my hubby and I, my husband repositions to give him room, and he never even notices that he does it. 
My thoughts would be maybe get one of those Dock-a-tot things (or, make one like I did because I’m cheap!), and then that helps create a barrier for baby to have their own space. Or use a blanket or pillow between hubby and baby, for the same thing. Or even a pool noodle. I’ve seen people put pool noodles under the sheet on the edge to help keep toddlers from rolling out of their beds, but the same thing could be done in the middle to keep dad and baby in their respective spaces. 
Also, making sure to make time for you two alone. As long as the baby is safe, take a few minutes for some adult time in another room. Turn on some music if you have to. Keeping your marriage healthy is as good or better for your baby as picking them up and comforting when they cry (and this is coming from a momma who does noooottttt let her little cry it out. But sometimes momma needs to finish something with daddy before I can come running 🤷‍♀️)

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Get the co sleeper for the side of your bed. Thats what I do, it is level with your bed and you can breastfeed roght there. Hubby is back in bed, baby is on his own bed which is safer.

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I bedshare usually from 1 am on but my husband still sleeps in bed with me... It hadn't effected my marriage though but everyone's relationship is different. We make time for our own adult time when can lol.. I'm sorry that you are having a hard time with your partner. Definitely try moving your baby and see what happens. Remind him that it's a phase, and it's especially hard to have baby separate when breastfeeding. Most babies start sleeping the night in the next few months also.

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I’m in the same boat 
I have spare mattress in My sons room and I’ve been sleeping there since week 6. Before he was in his bassinet in our room, then husband complained that he couldn’t fall asleep so we moved out, now I can’t move back in to my our room 😢 husband is shitty but I also said 6 months!!!! Let’s see

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