is it bad for me not to be able to handle my boyfriends problems? i’ve been with him for about 4 months and he has been absolutely nothing but supportive and loving and generous and caring, but he has some mental health issues that really take a toll on me. i feel awful because i can’t give him the care that he needs even though he does his best to care for me whenever i’m having a bad time. granted, his problems are a bit more severe than mine, but still. he’s on medication and seeing a therapist once a week but lately it doesn’t appear to be enough. i just feel so awful and guilty, i want to be able to help and support him but whenever he vents his problems to me it ends up making me upset too and i end up unable to give him the care he needs. i feel selfish even though it’s not my intention. should i just try harder to put my feelings aside and help him? should i reconsider the relationship until both of us are in a better place mentally? it happens so frequently and it’s really taking a toll on me. i want him to be happy but i also have a lot of work to do on myself. i just feel a bit lost.