I am 7.5weeks pregnant so maybe I’m more hormonal than normal.. but see what you think and tell me I’m not crazy here?!

My husbands brother got married last year and my MIL organised the whole thing and paid for most of it (The bride wasn’t fussed seeing as a lot of her family lives abroad). I found the venue for them and the MIL got the flowers, the ties, the band, the DJ, organised the food, the cake, guest book, the favours, card box, personalised sweetie stand with personalised stickers/bags, sparklers, the invitations including writing them all out and sending them in the post... the nights stay in a posh hotel, table decoration, literally everything but the photographer. She even brought her wedding dress shopping and got her dress dry cleaned afterwards! The parents in law also paid for a two week honeymoon to America...

When my time came, although I wasn’t expecting the same (I organised everything myself) I would have at least liked a bit of enthusiasm. The first time I shown her the invitations I designed myself, she didn’t even say they were nice! She just acknowledged them. The first time we shown her the gorgeous castle venue, she was like ‘it’s nice’ but I could tell she thought it was overly swanky. None the less, I’ve always been super nice and polite. I even helped her find an outfit for my wedding and my husband (her son, paid for it).

When the day of my wedding came, she was in the room when I unveiled my wedding dress on the mannequin and she didn’t say anything. The photographer was actually surprised herself because she was gearing up to take a photo of her reaction and said “Oh have you already seen it?” And of course my MIL said no. So the hairdresser said “Do you like it then?” And she just nodded and went “mmm”. Then probably realised that was rude and followed with “it’s nice” after a long pause. The dress was honestly gorgeous by the way and there wasn’t anything to ‘dislike’ about it. She did make a comment about the price of wedding dresses previously and mine was bespoke made so I think it was jealousy personally. Still..it was my wedding day!

The whole weekend she seemed moody and hasn’t let up since. There’s loads of examples of things she’s said since or little digs she’s made but this post is long enough. She obviously has a bee in her bonnet about something but I don’t know what and I’m afraid asking her will only cause trouble. One thing I can think of is: Five days before my wedding, her other son chose to announce his wife’s pregnancy on Facebook and my MIL also put a post up about it. Before doing that, I casually suggested they wait a few more days until after our wedding and her face dropped. I said no worries if not and of course they put the post up anyway. I wasn’t too bothered but I did feel that if this was my sisters wedding, I would have let her have her moment instead of stealing the limelight, for the sake of one week.

Myself and my husband put up two separate posts after our wedding with photos and thanking everyone for coming and she didn’t like either of them?? Despite her being a busybody on social media and the fact she was tagged in them!

Fast forward 6 months and we still haven’t received a wedding present (apparently the dad is waiting on a retirement fund). I genuinely couldn’t care if they never give us a penny as the dad has helped up massively with DIY around the house. However he’s done that for the other son too and still managed to go above and beyond for their wedding.

Not only that but there has also been about £2000 spent on their new baby before he was even born. They bought a matching nursery suite as the main gift and a loadddd of other bits which I know would have cost aloT of money. They also bought them a new car as the other one “wasn’t reliable enough when you’ve got a baby” and they got them a new TV for their bedroom.

The MIL also organised a babyshower for her sons wife and bought all the party food, alcohol, decoration, loads of helium balloons, a cake and cupcakes and other bits which would have cost a fortune. Then she told me numerous times that she wouldn’t be doing it for me as I have sisters!

Fast forward to the birth and she’s been with them since her sons wife went into labour! She even went to their first scan! The labour went on over two days and she said she only got 2hrs sleep. What was she even there for?! She said originally she was going to wait outside but of course she didn’t. It’s an intimate time, the woman in labour is stressed, half naked and drugged up. It’s the couples first baby and then you’ve got the mans mother joining in on those precious moments. I don’t understand this at all. I told my husband that I thought it was overbearing and he fell out with me which I do understand as it’s his mother. However we got speaking again and since that conversation this morning, I read his message from his brother and he said “let us know when your boss aka Karol, allows you to come visit”. Like I was the controlling battle axe?! They’re all obviously bitching about me. Baring in mind they only had the baby 16hrs previously!! Plus I knew the MIL has been smothering them all day and I wanted to give them some time alone to breath!! I told my husband his brothers comment upset me and he was like “for Gods sake he was joking. My family have all got a conspiracy against you obviously so let’s just visit your family from now on seeing as that’s what you want”. I explained that I have never had a problem with any of them at all! I make Sunday dinners for them the same way I make them for my own family but I’m not blind and I pick up on their digs and I don’t appreciate his brother speaking about me like that. Then my husband said he doesn’t want to hear another word about it because it’ll only cause problems in our marriage and is blanking me.

We have our 8week scan on Tuesday and was planning on telling his parents then but I currently have no time for them after all this. There’s clear favouritism but maybe I should just let them carry on being up each other’s arse and focus on my own baby. I’m sure my own parents will be on hand to help and support me and the new baby arrives so it’ll only be them missing out if they continue to treat me unfairly.

It will be interesting to see how his parents react when I tell them I’m pregnant and will there be tears like there was for golden child and golden daughter in law!

So what do you think I should do.. address this with the MIL or just ignore it all and keep myself to myself?