Okay so my boyfriend and I are in college and work part time.

He started his current job almost 2 years ago and has loved the major company he works for. Loved the people he worked with, the environment, and the customers (most days). He was happy to go to work.

Well about a month ago his company and another similar company merged together with literally ZERO warning while we were on a mini vacation. His manager called him and explained that he still had his job, but it was with the other company and in a new location with different managers and such.

Of course, he was extremely upset and mad. This new location was farther away (already driving 30+ minutes one way, now even longer), new people, new system, basically an entire new job. No raise or bonus if he decided to stay.

Well we started talking and he decided that he wanted to apply for different jobs closer to home since it didn’t make sense for him to stay with his current job economically.

We were still on our vacation, but he asked me if I could help him look online. I looked and found that our Lowe’s store was hiring part time. He decided he would apply when we got back home and had his laptop.

Well, fast forward and he applied. He called them a week after not hearing back and they decided to set up an interview. He was so excited! And I was excited for him!

He goes to the interview and he says everything went really well.

Fast forward a few more days and he hasn’t heard anything so he calls. Whoever it is he talks to puts him on hold for a pretty decent amount of time. Finally he hangs up. Later that night he gets an email saying he was not picked for the job.

Well tonight rolls around and we’re talking and texting about it (we don’t live together). And he tells me he’s upset because he really thought his interview went well. I ask him if he wants to start looking at other places and he says yes and asks me if I could look up places near us since he was busy talking to his family. I tell him sure, but that I need to start homework in a little bit.

I look up and find a few different places. Of course, it doesn’t say how much it is an hour, but these places are MUCH closer to him, so he could afford a slight pay cut if needed.

I send him the links and he starts saying how those places don’t pay enough and that it’s a waste of his time to apply. So of course I ask if it says what they pay on the website and he says no, he “just knows it doesn’t pay enough”.

Okay so I’m irritated now because he’s not even going to apply, but whatever. I start looking at other places. I find a couple others and sends back that he might just try to apply at the old grocery store he used to work at. Now, this made me mad. Not because he would be going back to a place he downright hated, but because they start out at MINIMUM WAGE and after 2 years of working there and a few raises, he was only at $8.00/hr.

So of course my mind is just like ???? You didn’t want to apply to these other jobs because they supposedly didn’t make enough, but you would go back to an old job that starts you out at minimum wage??

So of course I’m very frustrated at this point because he specifically asked me to help, which I thought I did and then he complained and now this.

So I tell him “why am I the one trying to find you a job, when you’re being so picky about it?”

And he responds with “I’m looking I don’t know why you keep sending them [links to jobs I found online] to me”.

He asked me for help because he said he was busy?? I don’t know that just rubbed me the wrong way and I’m pretty mad. Like I didn’t have to help? I could’ve been doing my homework, but he asked me to help and I did and then I get that? No “thank you” no appreciation whatsoever. I thought I was helping.

What did I do wrong? I mean, please if I did anything wrong call me out. I just really don’t see what went wrong here.

I took a break from replying for around 30ish minutes to calm myself and then finally replied and told him that I didn’t have to help him and that it would’ve been simple for him to say “thank you, but I think I’m going to see what I can find on my own” instead of being plain rude.

I’m just frustrated. So am I crazy or?