So I'm in a healthy relationship and have been for 9 months now. My partner is almost 10 years older than me and already has a child. Isn't sure whether he wants any more kids and doesn't believe in marriage.

Obviously being a 29 year old woman with no kids myself. Marriage and children is always something I'd dreamed of. As do most women.

Now here's where it gets complicated

I've known a guy for about 6 years now. Always been something there between us, unfortunately he lives down the bottom of the country whereas I live at the top. Weve met a few times and had instant chemistry and connection and il always consider him "the one that got away"

We are so alike in so many ways and we keep in touch as friends whether we are single or not that's just how it's always been.

So he's come out and basically told me he's in love with me, always has been. He wants me to be his wife and he wants kids with me. I'm the one for him and its took him this long to say it because he never thought anything would happen with the distance between us but he cant hold it in any longer.

My head is torn to pieces. He's always been the one for me, always. I've never been able to escape him. I'm just not willing to throw away what I have now for a "what if" if that makes sense.

Really need some advice please 🙏🏼 thank you for reading x