Long story:

Ok so me and my husband have been married for 3 years, together for 5. We have a 6 week old beautiful baby girl. So ever since we moved in together 4.5 years ago, hes been very secret about bathroom time (not that weird to me some people like privacy) and he takes FOREVER... seriously there have been times hes been in there for more than an hour. This caused quite a bit of tension when I was pregnant and we only had one bathroom, because as soon as I'd say something about how long hes taking, he would get up and wash his hands and get out... anyway, a while back I noticed a "nasty funk" that smelled like straight up shit, when he would come out. I figured, he got crap on his hands and was not good at hand washing. I talked to him about it... it was nothing super serious at the time. But it continued for years and into my pregnancy and told him you cant have this when you hold the baby, you really have to wash your hands because the bacteria can make her very sick. He said ok. well I've talked to him a few times about his shit smelling hands because its nasty. And I hear him washing g his hands in the bathroom, so I don't see how the smell lingers! He picked up the baby a couple weeks ago and I immediately smelled that familiar shit smell and I grabbed her from him and said "no this is not happening. Your hands smell like shit. You're not holding her. Its nasty." Then I went to kiss her head and his hands litterly made her head smell like shit!!!

This happened again tonight where he went to take her from me and I smelled the shit smell on his hands. I said "absolutly not. Your hands smell like shit! You will make her very sick!"

I should not have to have this conversation with a grown man! This is ridiculous.

And I'm convinced that hes digging for buried treasure in there! Like... wtf... because one time I opened the door and his hand was in the "wiping position" but it was like... weird... and I find it incredibly disgusting, unsanitary, etc. Let's face the facts, I've gotten poop on my hands before, but NEVER has it lingered on my hands, and transferred to other surfaces when I touched them!

ever since i realized he took forever in the bathroom, (5 years ago!) ive asked him to see a doctor, ive gotten him stool softener, milk of magnesia, fiber supplements... he is not willing to do any of them.

I honestly think hes being nasty. And I dont want my daughters health to suffer for it...

I have a very hard time finding him sexually attractive...and the thought of him touching me... because I could get an infection...

What do I do? 🤢🤮💩💩