It’s honestly been a rollercoaster of emotions during this pregnancy because of him and now our relationship is 100% done and has been for a little. But we’re on speaking terms because now that his friend is having a baby he’s suddenly excited. But he’s gone through the I’m excited phase before and then is over it. So that will probably be here next week. But if he wants to be a dad finally I’m not gonna tell him no. Not fair to my son.

After two years of being together he told me “I just don’t think relationships are for me, you didn’t make me miserable, and this is going to sound really selfish but I want to be able to do whatever I want whenever I want”

I said what? I never told you you couldn’t do anything...and he said “I know and that’s just it. I don’t want to do anything. I want to sit in my room all day but if my friend calls me at the last minute and wants to hang out, I couldn’t cause we were together already doing something.” Which is funny to me because it’s such a lame excuse and he always told me “hey so and so called and wants to go to eat” and I’d say oh ok do you wanna go? And he’s say “no I wanna stay here and relax with you”. I honestly think he’s confused or bipolar.

I asked why after two years and a pregnant Gf did you finally realize you don’t want to be in a relationship. He said he doesn’t know but he knows he a selfish person but “sorry that’s just who I am, you’ll be ok alone during this time”.

Honestly I feel blindsided because the person I was with was very attached always asking me to hang out and very sentimental. It’s like a switch just flipped. He went from caring so much for me to not at all. And I hate to break it to him but once baby is here, it he wants to be in his life like he claims, “he can’t do whatever he wants when he wants”. I know I certainly can’t because that’s not how life works.

Oddly I’m thankful he told me this because when the day comes that he wants to be with me again, I can always remember how he treated me. He even told me “I may regret this someday but I’ll just have to chalk it up as a life lesson”.

My ex really doesn’t have too much life experience so I really don’t think he understands what his regret will feel like but that’s not my problem. He’s 24 years old (will be 25 when baby is here) but his mother has done everything for him his entire life so he’s never had any responsibilities. He moved back in with her and she makes his lunches for work and cleans his room still. Must be nice to pay no bills and have a maid basically. I think that’s why he’s running away from me because I wanted him to step up.

Since everything has been handed to him, I believe that’s why he’s so mentally immature. He also told me I was the first girl he ever fell in love with so he doesn’t even know much about heartbreak or what it feels like to be disappointed because “I was such a great gf”. I had no idea until about a year into our relationship that I was his first actual gf. That shocked me because of our age. By then I already had like 4 serious bfs. I thought about leaving at that point because I thought it was weird he never had pursued anyone at that age, but I stayed because our relationship was great.

At the end of the day, I’m going to keep going and remain positive because him telling me all of that honestly, instead of pretending like he was so happy and loved me, freed me from caring about him.