So how do you go about telling grandparents that you’re not going to allow the child to sleepover until they are potty trained and can talk. I don’t want to seem like a bitch or anything. It is just so I know if something happens then my kid can tell me. Also how to tell family members that you’re not spanking your child without it being an argument?

I’m not saying family members can’t be trusted. I just feel more comfortable with waiting until then and teach them how to identify an unsafe person regardless if they’re family or not. I’ll teach my kid the proper anatomy of their bodies.

My boyfriend agrees about waiting until the child can speak and is potty trained. It’s just him speaking up as well about it to mainly his mother. It came up last night ,but I didn’t say anything because I wanted to be sure we were on the same page when telling her.

Later on today I’m going to ask him if he still agrees about when to allow sleepovers. Plus I want it to be fair between the two grandmothers. My mom has a two bedroom apartment and my teenage brothers live with her so there’s no way she could have the baby sleepover because she also works. Also I don’t trust her to not put my baby with her on a air matter. I already have to make it clear to my family that we aren’t doing spanking as discipline, and as much as I would hate to cut off family just because I don’t do spanking or someone spanks my kid. It’s just about respect at the end of the day.