I’m not entirely sure what gaslighting is but something tells me I know this can’t be healthy in my marriage.

I’ve been married to my husband for a few years now and we have been together for awhile before getting married so we’ve been through a LOT.

I found out he was sexting women sending nudes all things online not after long getting married. I was hurt but decided I still wanted to salvage our marriage and we did therapy a few times. I’ve still been in the process of getting over it all.

Recently I saw he had been talking to a woman over social media. He said it wasn’t anything sexual just platonic. I told him how I thought it was inappropriate and how I was annoyed he even thought it would be okay. During this argument he starts bringing up stuff that happened WAY before we got married like things when we were in college, stuff I thought we were way past before even marrying. He kept saying “I can’t do anything right but what about ME what about MY feelings” it was a really intense argument and of course I was getting defensive because he was coming at me for things from the past. I kept telling him I’ve never been unfaithful in our marriage but it was like he was trying to be a victim?

What do you guys think? I’m still trying to process it all