So let’s say you’ve been with someone a year or two. Things start going down hill. Constant fighting, name calling all that good stuff... they decide to leave tell you they can’t live like this. They can’t do the fighting all the time. They don’t love you anymore. They rent out a room from the opposite sex. Moves on with their life. But still talk to you. Going back and forth on if they want to be with you. Makes excuses not to hang out. You know they’ve been on a few dates them self’s. Unsure if anything physical happened. Anyways they are gone a total of 4 months. We get back together. Are together for 6 months before the same thing to much fighting. They don’t love you anymore. They are gone for 2-3 weeks this time. While gone saying how all the fighting is your fault. Everything you need to change. All the while they are going out drinking doing whatever. They come back say they want to work on things and things are good for about a month or so. This has been happening for 4 years. They have left about 4 times. The last time even when and got a apartment to get away. We ended up moving together to said apartment... yes I know it’s stupid to keep going back and forth. I know it’s toxic... is it cheating if they left said I don’t want to be with you but then came back? “Technically” they are single? I’m confused the most about this. I’m in therapy and I keep going back and forth about it. Yes it’s sucks. Yes it hurt but he said he was leaving and didn’t want to be with me. So... yea. The only question is it cheating?