Do you tell parents first or in-laws?

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I’m 7.5weeks pregnant and husband and I will be telling both our parents this week.
The problem I have is that each time we arrange a date based on our plans, my husband keeps scheduling in his parents first, ie. breakfast with his parents and dinner with mine. Then we couldn’t do that day so he suggested lunch with his parents and dinner with mine. When I suggested Saturday night takeaway with my parents and Sunday breakfast with his he said he’s not telling his the day after mine... I’m the pregnant one here though..? Am I being petty here or should the lady tell her parents first? His parents have just had their first grandchild the other day which they are already wrapped up in, this will be my parents first and therefore more special. I don’t know, is it worth a potential fall out with hubby.. What did everyone else do?

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We told my parents first for our first, and the inlaws first for our second. We didn't really plan it that way, it just happened. They both find out eventually, so it wasn't something we were super concerned about.
If it's something you can't both agree on, maybe have lunch with both of them or something? But yes, all else fails, I'd say since you've got the bump, you should have the final say. 😊

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I told my parents first. I agree the mom here. Express how u feel and if all else fails have a lunch and invite both parents

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I told mine when I was ready he told his when he was ready....we tried not to make it into this huge thing.

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We told my mom first, we had a miscarriage  in November and she knew I was anxious about getting pregnant again. She knew we were trying again and I call her every day. She said she could tell based on my voice.
We told his parents later because they requested to wait until we had a first appointment, since we had a early miscarriage last time.

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Could you schedule a brunch or dinner with both sets of parents, and tell them together?? Then nobody is ‘first’. 
Last pregnancy we told my parents first, his parents second. We told mine a little early bc it was my moms birthday and I knew she’d be over the moon. This pregnancy we called his parents the night after the 8w ultrasound (they live far away), and then told my parents when we saw them in person a few days later. Don’t stress about it too much!

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We told my parents first with our first baby mostly because it was my moms birthday and we thought it would be a fun surprise. We told his parents the next day. This time around we told his parents first just because the opportunity arose and went with it . We plan on telling my family this week. I never really thought about who should be told first but I totally get you wanting to tell your parents first! It’s killing me keeping it from my mom! Either way they will both be over the moon excited! 💕

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In-laws. My dad lives on the other side of the world and was so dramatic when he found out about the miscarriages. I just do t want to tell him until after the first trimester. No mom.
My older sister was technically the first person I told besides my partner

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With our first it was calls to both the same evening after our 8w scan. My parents were first but it was due to them being near wifi at a  certain time so it was easier to catch them. Then his parents who were already home for the evening so more flexible to catch. Then we called the sisters, we each have one. I think his first because she lives next door to his parents and knew they’d see each other that night. Then mine. 
This time we will announce at our sons first bday and anyone who couldn’t make it will get a call that night or next day. 
Try not to Stress about it. But if it’s really important to you both maybe schedule an brunch with everyone at once?

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I told my partners parents before mine , but only because they found out sooner as they spotted the non alcoholic beer at Christmas 😂😂

Do you tell parents first or in-laws?

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