I’m 20 weeks pregnant. My husband and I tried for almost 2 years and had 4 early losses along the way. He has 2 children from his previous marriage, they’re 12 and 13 currently. They split up when the kids were 1 and 2. They were both young, 16/17 when they had their first. During this pregnancy my husband has compared so much to his ex and his kids. I told him I didn’t want to be induced, he argued saying “well we did that twice and it was fine” or that I don’t want an epidural and “she had one and it went so easily”. I signed up to take a birthing class and child care class for newborns, and he acted offended saying he knows how to care for babies because he’s done it twice. He’s never ever rude in these conversations, very casually mentions things. I know he’s trying to be helpful since I’m new to it all, but I really don’t want to hear about him and his ex or how they did things! We are COMPLETELY different women, and I’m doing things so differently. We butt heads on parenting as well but we’re working through it. I mentioned tonight that it upsets me when he compares things. He just said sorry and then kinda shut down. Like yeah I don’t doubt he knows how to take care or babies and all that, he’s very active in the kids lives and always have been. But I want to feel like this pregnancy is special and learn as I go. I worked so hard for this and he just knocked her up on accident twice. I’m just irritated and also sad feeling about it, but lately I feel like I’ve been overreacting due to hormones too.