Please help!! Welts every month in my private areas

I have went to see my Dr (actually RN) since November when monthly now I have been getting what I thought were hives in between my legs and all up my butt. Our household uses all free and clear everything so there is no way it is an allergic reaction to something in that category. I have went in and they have confirmed that it is not an internal or external yeast infection. I can very rarely sleep when it happens and the only thing that evens gives me a slight relief is a cold cloth between my legs. The last time I went in the RN told me. “I just don’t know.” This isn’t normal and I feel like my body is trying to release something but no one can figure it out. Does or has anyone else experienced something like this? It can last from 3-5 days.