So a little background...when my parents split up, it tore the whole family apart and since then my dad’s side and my mum’s side have been in the same room together. My dad’s family have always looked down on my mum’s family because she worked for his family (that’s how they met), she was basically considered ‘the help’.

When I first got pregnant I was to do a gender reveal party, a baby shower and everything else but soon realised that I couldn’t be bothered with the hassle of it all, plus it would cost so much money!! It’s the first grandchild on my side so my mum and brother said they would throw it and pay for the baby shower.

I was really flattered but then my brother started inviting his and his boyfriend’s friends that I had met a couple of times before. I fell out with my auntie and cousin about a year ago and haven’t spoken to them since, apart from telling them I was pregnant (had to do it over text because they wouldn’t answer my calls) and I got a blunt text of “congrats.”. My brother is constantly saying that they should be there and I keep telling him no.

I said that I just wanted something small but now we’ve hired a hall, invited 50+ people (not including kids) and spent loads of money. Then I had my mum and brother over to see what the plan was and they said that after the shower, we would write up how much everything was and split it 3 ways (between mum, brother and me)...they’ve already spent so much money that I know we can’t afford with buying things for the baby right now.

Also, I told them that I wouldn’t be inviting my Dad’s side because there isn’t many of them and my dad offered to do something after the baby way born. I know if they are all together, they will just start an argument and I don’t want the stress right now. My step mum has never even seen my mum but they already don’t like each other.

My brother had a massive go saying that all of my dad’s side should be there, including my auntie and cousin. I told him that this shower isn’t for him and he shouldn’t be inviting people that I don’t like or know but he keeps saying that he’s got every right to because he’s putting money and effort into it.

I’m so annoyed, he’s turned this into something for him and my mum doesn’t say anything to him! When we were arguing about it all of it she just walked out of the room, of course I got the blame for upsetting mum. Then she had a go at me for being ungrateful. Since then, they haven’t organised one thing and my parents has been left to make the photo wall and decorations. I’m organising and making all the food...I’m so stressed out and I know I’m not got to enjoy it but now all these people have been invited so I have to do it.