My husband’s past time is to collect different bourbons. I posted not long ago about how he was contacting a lady who was the manager at a store via Snapchat. I told him I didn’t think it was appropriate for him to contact this woman on a app like Snapchat.

Apparently he got her number when he was at the store, I was actually waiting for him in the car with our son for like an 1.5 hour it was a long time. They hit it off and she said her and her husband have parties where they drink bourbon so my husband was wanting to become friends with her to have that connection.

He’s lied in the past and had issues with social media and talking with women but I forgave him and since then I’ve just been paranoid. He’s tried to be better and at least he was honest after I confronted him about who this woman was. But it definitely brought back all the emotions I’ve tried to put past.

On top of that his family has alcohol issues. There have been times where he has gotten drunk and we get in a fight and he just becomes angry. He’s never been physical but it’s been verbal. On the flip side this is his passion he enjoys bourbon collecting it’s a way for him to “destress” but also it’s just a fine line between being dependent on it idk. I feel like yes I should let him have something outside of work but also its not something I’m passionate about and I hate that sometimes when he drinks too much 1 little thing will set him off and he becomes angry and irrational I love him but also think maybe I’m in denial that these are red flags