How do I get through this?

A lot has happened recently. I had to get away from my husband for a while and come back home. (He’s military), because he started getting physically abusive and mentally abusive towards me. This includes tightening a belt around my neck and shoving himself inside of me without my permission, while I was saying no. (I am a rape victim so this affected me very very strongly.) We’re not healthy for each other any more...I thought coming home for a break would make us miss each other and allow me to regather myself but instead it did the opposite. Last week he called me and he told me how lazy I am and that I don’t help with anything and just entirely destroyed my character, then called me a bitch and hung up on me. Fast forward a couple days and I was in the hospital and watched one of my closest family members pass away. He hasn’t talked to me at all within this past week, and today he TEXTED me and said that he missed me but obviously I don’t miss him because I hadn’t gotten ahold of him. And “oh sorry about your aunt btw”...and then continued on and started trying to manipulate me by saying “funny how you’re leaving now that I have a heart condition and I’m here all alone” and then proceeded to say “I will be the adult here and I’ll file the separation papers”... i have tried everything from talking to him and communicating with him and yet we’re still here now... at this point. I just have so much going on with my passing of my family member a couple of days ago and now this that I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’m so confused and hurt...it genuinely feels like it’s the end of the world for me.