I need some girl advice on in-laws

Okay so my husband dad pissed me off a few months ago. First they never seemed to care to talk to us till we got pregnant. Then they announced on Facebook before I even got the chance to tell my side. Well they promised all this stuff a baby shower and then last min lied about the whole thing. We were left to get the rest on our own . ( which is no big deal but don’t tell me not to worry about stuff and not do it 20 days till I was due) I picked out so much stuff that I never got. Anyways Day came to have the baby and I was only 3 hours after pushing him out. I heard my husband tell him in the hallway not to kiss the baby.... then his dad walked in an kissed him said its his grand baby ... TOTALLY DISRESPECTED ME. After I made it vary clear NO ONE was to kiss him. Then to find out his gf had poison ivy which I was highly allergic too. Also before we had the baby his dad would be vary rude an tell me he’s taking his son an I have to stay at some random house ... well that’s okay what’s not okay is I’m a hour away from home and I don’t know nobody (it would be some family I never met before.) 😂 my husband cares but doesn’t care to him . None of his dad side was ever in his life till he had a kid. What would u guys do? We talked to him before Christmas and he just acted like it was no big deal what he did .