I have a small “group” of close friends. There’s four of us and that includes me. One of my friends has been dating this guy on and off for two years. She likes to say they have a “complicated” relationship but really it’s not complicated at all. He’ll dump her when he wants to go out and sleep with other girls and then come back to her when he’s done and misses her.

The first time this happened was about 5 months into their relationship and since then it’s become a regular thing. The longest they have been broken up is for maybe a month but usually it lasts 1-2 weeks. Whenever they break up she posts some cliché Instagram quotes, calls us up for a “girls night” that consists of her talking about how done she is with him, how it’s the last time she takes him back, we listen, give advice, support her, try to take her mind off things, and then next thing you know she’s posting pics with him again. And whenever they get together she ignores us. If we ask about why they got back together or when it happened she just says she doesn’t want to hear our judgement and basically puts us on hold for him. We don’t really see her until he dumps her again. And it’s no secret he’s going with other girls, we have seen it a few times or he even posts about it.

Well sure enough he dumped her two days ago and now she wants us to go over. We explained that we had made plans to go to a cabin already about two hours from us. We had invited her but she said no as she assumed she would still be with him for valentines day. Still we told her to come along but she doesn’t want to go out apparently. She accused us of not being there for her. So I snapped. I told her that I was sick and annoyed of hearing about her relationship drama and the same problems over and over again. I told her “you know he’s going to be back whenever he’s done with whatever new chick he’s with and you’re going to take him back anyway so why dont you have a little fun too?” She called me a bitch and i told her that it’s true, everyone knows it she says so herself and yet every time it happens she acts heartbroken and shocked. And yeah i guess it does hurt to have a guy do that but it has happened at least 20 times and that’s lowballing it. I told her that from now on i dont want to hear about her relationship drama unless she’s done for real. Am i a bad friend for saying this?