Okay, so long story short.

I’m having my 2nd child. My first is a boy and now I’m having a girl!

I don’t have anyone that would be willing to throw me a baby shower, except for my sister who just had her 2nd child. I don’t want her throwing one, though she wants to bc it can get costly throwing a party. I want to invite abt 15 of my closest friends and abt 15 of my husbands side of the family.

My MIL mentioned wanting to possibly throw a baby shower for me. Then she got into it with her son (my husband) and the party was off, then later she apologized and later said she’ll do it. The argument was out of the blue and random. Basically she wanted to throw a gender reveal and had bought a cake and is bitter that we chose to do our own reveal. Note that we didn’t know that or that any money was spent. I think she blew it out of proportion and made it seem bigger than it was.

Needless to say, yesterday the party was on then was off, now it’s back on. today I found out that my husband told his sister that WE were going to pay for everything for the baby shower. Yes, we are going to pay for venue, catering, cake, decorations, everything. They will pick everything out for my baby shower and we’ll just pay for it. I basically won’t have a say In anything. My husband said we’ll pay for everything bc it’s too many people for his mom/sister to pay for. Why offer to do it if you can’t afford it?

Then my husband said that he basically asked her to throw one, which is why he said he’ll pay for everything.

Here’s the thing-if we’re paying for everything, might as well either A.) keep the money to apply to baby needs or B.) throw a baby shower for myself.

So...I texted my MIL to tell her thank you for wanting to throw one but that my mom will throw one instead. She didn’t respond but called my husband angrily confused.

My mom said that she’ll throw me one a month after the baby is born. Is that normal to do?? Should it even be done?

I could just have my sister throw me one just for my friends and not invite any of his family considering that I don’t really talk to any of them. I just don’t know what to do. I really just wanted to celebrate the new addition and I feel like it’s been stollen from me.