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Find a moms group in your area. Go to storytime at your local library. Volunteer at a nursing home with your children. Start going for walks. You need to work to build your community.
Stay at home mom depression 😢💔
I've been a stay at home mom for 3 years now. I have a 3 year old and a 6 mouth old. I've been feeling depressed as of late. I do the same thing over and over and over again. Everyday is nothing new. I don't have friends. I only really talk to my mom, sister and s.o. I live in leggings and t-shirts because I rarely leave the house. I want to work just to get out for a bit but with one car and no trust in daycare workers. I'm home for now..but I'm starting to lose my mind. My toddler is always bored and I try to find him things to do. Like I said we're stuck at home a lot. I'm always yelling. That's all I do. Just scream at him to stop making a mess, stop dropping food, stop jumping on the furniture. Then my 6 month starts crying any time I put him down. I can't shower, eat, piss, literally anything. I feel like locking myself in the bathroom just to get away for a few minutes. I feel like I'm so close to having a nervous breakdown. Any day now. My s.o works full time and when he does get home I'm still with the kids. It's never ending. I just feel so done with motherhood already and it just begun. I feel awful saying I'm over being a mom because I love my kids more than anything, but I'm so frustrated and exhausted. My s.o and I agreed I can start working when my baby is a year. I told him I have to. Even though he prefers me home. I can't anymore. He talks about having a third and even thought makes me cringe. I feel awful just saying this but I'm at my wit's end. Someone please tell me I'm not alone.
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You’re not alone. You also shouldn’t have a third if he ‘expects’ that you’ll be home with that kid too. Because then the situation will never improve. You’ve got to put your mental health first. Yes bad things happen in daycare but that’s few and far between. I’d consider getting a job now if I were you. That seems like it would make you feel better. And when mom is happy, it actually ends up making the kids happier too in the long run. I’m also a SAHM but I only have one toddler and I do have a car. But I totally understand what you mean. It can be somewhat mind numbing at times.
There are def a lot of women who feel the same way you do. It sounds like you need a break. I LOVE my kids with my entire being but I need a break from them. I’m also a stay at home mom with 3 kids and my husband works 6 days a week and he knows when he gets home he’s gotta help with our family. Talk to your husband and talk to your daughter. You shouldn’t feel alone and depressed. Look up the bus schedule and figure it out to start getting you and your kids places. Don’t let anything hold you back on getting out of the house with them once in a while It’s tough I agree but sometimes getting out of your home is what will slowly start helping you.
I’m going to be taking 18 months off for maternity leave. I have a 18 month old and another coming in April. I’m looking forward to spring summer because there’s always ppl around and lots to do but winters tough! My daughter will be in daycare part time so that will help but being stuck in the house gets to you! I was off on maternity leave last year and I really lost my mind in the winter! Luckily I have a vehicle and can get out and about...I don’t really have much advice but I feel what your going through! It’s tough and being a sahm isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Yes, its nice to be with our babies but can be very isolating and depersonalizing.
This is how I’ve been feeling too. I have a 3 1/2 year old and a 7 month old. But we do have two cars and I do try to get out with them as much as possible as we have a zoo membership and an aquarium membership. Sure going out with them helps a little bit, but you still feel like your whole identity is just “mom” and nothing ever seems to change because you are still with them, by yourself, and having to help every time the 3 year old needs to go to the bathroom, or the little one needs a bottle or diaper change. I used to have family and friends who would help me with the kids sometimes and that is honestly probably what would help me the most right now, but I don’t anymore. I hate feeling resentful about having young children and wishing they were old enough to be in school already. I want to be able to enjoy this time in their lives, it’s just so hard sometimes.
Could you go for a walk or find a moms group?Would your 3 year old play in the yard? I’m sure your 6m old would love to watch their sibling play! It would also be good for you to be outside. I always feel so much better when I can get out of the house. Do they ever nap at the same time? Take this time to take care of yourself. Shower, have a cup of coffee, watch your favorite show. Remember that you’re those babies’ world 💙
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