My boyfriend went to Houston with a friend of his to pick up some machine for work and they are staying the weekend. I was totally fine with it since they haven’t hung out in a while. But when they got to Houston he didn’t let me know they got there (I’d asked him to let me know to know if they arrived safely, he agreed) he just sent me a text that he had fallen asleep when they got to the hotel. I asked if we could talk on the phone later at night and he replied with “if I’m not too drunk, we are trying some breweries and the beers are strong”. I replied with “ok babe, please be good and text me later tonight”. There was no reply from him and I kept thinking it’s fine I’m letting him have some time with his friend.

Side note:we share locations to know where we are just to be safe and it was his idea when we started dating we are now 11 months in our relationship.

That was around 9:30pm and I checked his location around 11pm and 12am and saw he was at some breweries. So I thought he might be heading to the hotel. I wait another hour or so for a call or message from him but nothing. I check his location again at 1-1:30am and see that they are not at the hotel yet. They are at a strip club, and He never mentioned to me anything or has said anything else to me, I called him 3x and he did not answer. So I texted him “is this how you want me to trust you? If you don’t even answer me?”

I am getting upset because he wouldn’t like it if I went to see men dancing on me and I would not like him to go either.

Idk if I should discuss with him how he didn’t let me know/ communicate with me and how I find it disrespectful to me and our relationship that he went to a strip club, over the phone tomorrow or in person when he comes back. I’m just very upset and felt like venting.

Give me your opinion on how you would handle this, I’m trying to hold my composure and not be “toxic” lol but still respect myself and have him know how I feel.