Hi lovelies!

I just ‘came out’ as kinky to my boyfriend and I was thrilled to discover that he is into BDSM as well!

However he is definitely new to it (as am I but I have at least a little experience) and isn’t as into it quite as intensely as I am... in his words, he “enjoys the idea of it and likes watching BDSM porn but in practice is afraid to hurt someone he loves” which is so sweet and I understand his hesitation, but I want him to take control and hurt me lmao😂

Anyway, I was wondering if any of you had some advice or literature I could send to him to a) help educate him about being a Dom and b) help him become more comfortable with actually physically doing the things himself.

I feel like it’s also worth noting that one of the things I enjoy most about BDSM is being afraid of what my Dom is going to do to me and showing that fear (through crying, begging for mercy, struggling, and all that jazz... essentially basic CNC stuff) but I won’t do that until he is comfortable with feeling like he is hurting me or causing distress.

So please help a girl out!