With my ex husband things were really bad between us at the end and I did not enjoy sex with him. So naturally I was very quiet. Then I was with another guy for years but we were alway at his place with his roommates kids and other people around. I didn't want them to hear. We were just fuck buddy's honestly we didn't do to much either.

I just recently got in a relationship with a guy and am not happy with the sex. I know a lot of it is me. Some of it is being with someone new learning what each likes and things.

But before I use to really get into it enjoy it was loud and take control at times. Or at least say what I wanted or what. Now I want to be into it and I am to a point. It feels good but I find myself just not as vocal about how it feels or when i orgasm. I feel self conscious. It lessons the pleasure extreamly.

I also have a hard time really getting into it. If I feel he is not into it or just worried about making me orgasm it blows it for me. I try to tell him relax enjoy it go slow. But he is just 90 mph from jump. I know he wasn't in a very good relationship before and i can imagain the sex wasn't about being together and enjoying eachother. So that probably has something to do with it as well.

We have known each other been friends for over 30 years. But never ever until the last few months thought of each other in this kind of way. One of those the one person who never crossed your mind in that way kind of things. I have tried talking to him about likes dislikes and things. It is hard to say anything because i dont want him to feel attacked or i am saying he is doing it wrong or what. You know how guys take things like that. Help what do i do? I want the vocal adventure me back. I want us both to enjoy it i feel he isn't even less than me.