LONG POST...

Today I met up with my friend we arranged to go for brunch, hang out and go shopping together. We live over 3 hours away from each other and we haven’t seen each other since I came to see her and her beautiful baby girl in January.

Her daughter will turn 2 months this week, so I had some gifts to give to her for the baby. We arranged to meet up at a restaurant that she chose. We sat down ate and talked for around 2 hours. She told me how hard and tiring it is being a single mom and that her ex is a no good deadbeat dad as he still doesn’t see or support his daughter.

I said to her if she ever needs a break I can arrange to babysit or stay over for a weekend with them both. I will just have to arrange paid time off work. She said thanks and she will let me know. We left the restaurant and went shopping for 2 1/2 hours. I asked her who is looking after her baby. She said her neighbor was watching over her so she will be fine. I said that’s great!

After our day out I dropped her back to her apartment. I offered to take some of her shopping bags in and she said no it’s fine. Then she changed her mind and said ok please help so I did.

When I went into her apartment I wanted to see her sweet baby daughter. So I put the bags down and asked if I could see her. She said yes she should be in her nursery. I walked in to see her beautiful daughter fast asleep so I didn’t want to wake her. I left her nursery and asked my friend where is her neighbour as I have never met them before.

My friend then walked around her apartment and went into every room. She then walked out of the bathroom and confessed that she left her daughter at home by herself. She told me that she did ask her neighbor to come in and check on her baby and for neighbour to feed her the bottled breast milk she had left in the refrigerator while she was out.

She opened the refrigerator to prove that the neighbor did give her daughter the milk as there was an empty bottle left in there. Her neighbour actually fed the baby and put her back into her crib to sleep. I was so shocked by this and asked her has she ever left the baby by herself before. She said only once or twice to go to the nearby store for a few minutes. I told her she shouldn’t leave her by herself unless somebody can sit in to watch over her while she is out!

She then bursts into tears and screamed and said it’s so hard doing everything by herself all the time! I have no family or friends nearby my ex is a liar, cheat and only cares about his other daughter.

I told her she should talk to him and tell him she really needs his support with raising their daughter. That they need a co parenting agreement and that she’s really struggling and he needs to support his daughter. She told me that she has said all of this to him and then called me a stupid bitch. I told her to calm down I am not judging her I am here for her then she screams get out or I will call the cops get out of my apartment .

So I left her apartment as I didn’t want to cause any more disturbance especially since her baby girl was there. I left feeling so upset and shaken. I didn’t know what she would do next. So I walked back to my car. I sat down outside for 10 minutes in tears. I debated whether or not to go back and ring her buzzer or leave.

So I thought I would text her saying I am so sorry. I am here outside if you want to talk. I saw that she read my message but she never responded back. I then messaged her again if you need me I am always here for you. I love you. She read this message too but didn’t respond.

So I drove back home and I have been going through what happened today over and over in my head. I just feel so upset and unsettled and all I want to do is make everything right but I don’t know how! I am so unsure of what I can do. I don’t want to keep on messaging her as I don’t want to drive her further away!

I really need advice?

If I did anything wrong please say?

What would you do or not do in this situation?

I am scared for the welfare of my friend and her beautiful baby girl as they really need help! 😭