Any wives out there hate one of their husbands friends?

Question

My husband and I have great relationships with each others friends and always have fun no matter what group we’re hanging out in. But there’s this one friend of my husbands who I absolutely hate. They work together (my husbands the head chef, the friend is a kitchen/prep person) so they work late nights/early mornings and grab coffee or drinks together after shifts. The friend lives close so he’ll come over from time to time and it is what it is. But from hearing and talking to him I dislike him and his life choices. He sells drugs, is on probation, treats his girlfriend and most people around him like crap and overall a very selfish self absorbed person. Even on VALENTINES DAY he was confused on why my husband wouldn’t hang out with him. He really gets under my skin. I have told my husband I don’t like the guy, but I don’t want to be controlling and tell him not to hang out with him. But it’s getting to the point where I don’t want to be associated with him. He sells drugs in his home and it always makes me nervous when my husband goes there. I don’t want anything to happen like a drug deal gone bad or something stupid. And also almost every time he hangs out with us he begs just my husband to grab drinks with him and stay out all night with him, and doesn’t even acknowledge that I exist. I want to tell my husband I hate him and don’t want him around or hanging out with him or at our house. Is that too controlling?

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No. If I don’t like my husbands friends I tell him straight up. He still hangs with them but he won’t put them before me so I don’t care if they hang out. They mostly hang out at work and before work they grab breakfast. They don’t deal drugs though so it’s a little different.

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My husband has a friend that I absolutely hate. The problem is that it's his childhood friend. I feel that the guy doesn't respect him and he's tried to get with every girl my husband has been with, including me. I tell him I don't like him but I won't force him not to be friends with him. I don't want to be controlling. I won't talk to the guy, I'll tolerate him in our Xbox parties (not without some passive aggressive comments from yours truly). My husband will learn eventually that he's a shit friend and I'll just be here for when it happens. 🤷‍♀️

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My fiancé has one friend I definitely don’t hate per say but we are NOT buddies lol. I think with how close we were instantly into our relationship, he was jealous and felt I stole his wing man (somewhat understandably to be honest). But I still think he’s a good guy deep down and don’t think he’s a bad influence on my fiancé if they were to still hang out daily (we moved cross country).

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I’m dealing with that now but sadly it’s not my boyfriends friend but his brother 🤯🤬and he’s wayyy worse and has stolen shit from me yet my boyfriend “feels bad” that it’s his brother so I’m stuck Sometimes hanging out with this bum while I hate his guts lol 😂 can’t do much and I’ve tried to talk to him but since it’s his family it’s a bit more complicated

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I dislike most of my husband’s friends. They’re so fucking stupid! They bitches and nags far worse than any drag queens I’ve known!

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No. If I didn’t like a dude’s friends, I wouldn’t date him or marry him.