My dude loves having anal (my ass not his) I feel like he prefers it more than vagina sex but won’t ask for it too often. But lately it’s been everyday or every other day. I love how anal feels but I just hate the whole getting it in process. I tell him that it hurts and he def tries to be gentle and go slow but I need to be comfortable and turned on a lot but he thinks I’m being selfish by wanting more before anal. But it’s only to help me relax because anal is very painful when I’m not relax.. am I being selfish for wanting to be more relax and have him be kissy and lovey dovey before anal?

And also how can I make it easier to have anal? I’m also scared to try and stretch myself out before hand and it doesn’t feel good to hang his finger in my ass either being ass his fingers ain’t all that thick and kinda rough